As most of you know, I am currently a vegan. I am a vegan for mainly ethical and environmental reasons but also appreciate the tremendous health benefits of a plant-based diet.
It has been a long journey to reach full veganism and I am still not perfect at it. At around age 16, I realized that what was on the dinner table used to be a cute little animal and I no longer wanted to eat meats. I gave up veal first, then all beef, then fish, and finally chicken. It was not a straight path and there were many regressions to various levels of meat-eating over the years.
I kept dairy and eggs in my diet because I loved them, and at first I did not think they presented an ethical problem – the animals did not die to give us eggs and dairy, right?
But then gradually I learned the truth. The truth that the dairy and egg industries are the MOST cruel and horrible and that by continuing to eat eggs and dairy I was participating in the absolute worst of animal agriculture.
Still, it took me a loooooong time to get to a place where I could give them up. I mean, CHEESE! I adored cheese and could not imagine a life without it.
But as I had done before with becoming vegetarian, I took things slowly. I did a few days dairy and egg-free at a time. I learned how to bake without eggs and how to make scrambled tofu and tofu egg salad that totally satisfy and how to make nut cheese and cheesy sauces without the dairy. One day I was able to look back and not even remember the last time I had eaten either eggs or dairy. Yay me!
My family however… not on board.
Over the years, I have stopped cooking meats, chicken and fish for my family. My husband cooks those for them once a week. The rest of the time I cook vegetarian food. But it became increasingly uncomfortable for me to buy and prepare dairy for them knowing what I know about the dairy industry.
And then I watched Forks Over Knives and heard the scientific evidence that even a small amount of dairy each day activates cancer cells and causes tumor growth and I wanted me to get my loved ones off dairy immediately!
But when I would mention not buying milk anymore as a first step, children and spouse would stamp feet in protest. ”Mommy, now you are going too far!”
That looks creepy and weird, right? But it’s what we are doing when we drink their milk. They make that milk for their own calves, but we take their babies away at one-day old and steal their milk. Because apparently, we are not weaned.
Then…
One…
Day…
I saw some photos on Facebook of the Israeli dairy industry that stopped my heart. It had been easy for me to distance myself from the horror that is the cow milking madness, because it was over THERE, in America. Here in Israel, we thought, in order for food to be kosher, the animals have to be treated humanely, so conditions must be better than the States. Right? Right?
I mean, I had seen some cows on our cousin’s moshav and yes, their udders were horribly distended, but still…(denial, denial, denial…)
Then these photos and I could no longer keep my head in the sand. Not only are the cows’ udders insanely and sickly distended, bloody, pus-y, and horrific, there is one photo giving instructions for milking cows who are “smelly with diarrhea”, “have a suspected infection”, are “limping”, “bloody”, and “sick”.
End of Story. Last Straw. Tipping Point.
OK, even if you are the cruelest person on the planet and cannot muster a tiny bit of compassion for these MAMMALS, who in the world wants to drink the breast milk of a limpy, shit-covered, hormone-pumped, genetically-modified, bloody, pus-y, infected, postpartum cow boob??
I showed the photos to the kids and they agreed (sort of) and that was that. It has been a couple of weeks now and everything is going well in my no-cow-milk home. We have been experimenting with all different sorts of plant milks. Soy tastes the best and is the creamiest, but too much processed soy probably isn’t a great idea either, so I am mixing 1/3 each: soy, almond, and rice usually. I throw in a few drops of vanilla and a tablespoon or two of coconut milk and it is thick and delicious and YUM and no one is complaining.
That is just milk and this is just our starting place. No doubt they will still eat ice cream when they go out and we will still order pizza for my little one’s birthday party. Those things may change someday or maybe not, but cow milk itself, we are done with, and I feel awesome about it!
Not to mention my older son’s teenaged skin is looking MUCH better and he said “I used to have a stomach ache everyday at school. Now, not so much.” You have no idea how hard I have held back my told ya so’s!
People often say “Just me, not drinking cow’s milk, won’t make any difference.” In my opinion it DOES make a difference. First, it makes a difference for YOU. You feel better, you feel like you are making a compassionate choice, your skin clears up, your tummy doesn’t bloat, you don’t have all those hormones coming into your body and disrupting your own hormones, your cholesterol level comes down, your blood flows easier, you don’t farty fart fart all the time.
Then MAYBE one day someone will ask you why you don’t drink milk and maybe you will tell them. Maybe you will show them these photos and explain about the dairy industry and maybe, just maybe, you will cause them to think twice too. The ripple effect from just one person’s choices reaches far and wide. I know, because I see it in effect daily.
There are so many delicious alternatives. Just give them a try and see what happens. You don’t have to commit to veganism or anything. You don’t have to commit to ANYTHING. You can choose what to eat and drink at every meal. Just make sure you understand what you are choosing and what the cost of that choice is, for yourself, for the animals and for the planet.
There is no such thing as humane meat, dairy, eggs, fish poultry or pork. Would it be humane if we were treating humans this way? No, of course not. I’m not going to get into the whole thing here – take an hour and watch the amazing Gary Yourofsky video for yourself and learn what is true about animal agriculture. Video can be found HERE.
If you drink dairy or eat cheese or yogurt, you owe it to the cows to look at these photos. And this is Israel where we are mandated by religious law to treat animals humanely! If this is happening here, you can only imagine what it is like in your country.
Photo album is on Facebook HERE.
I know this is hard for many of you to think about. I know there is major cognitive dissonance happening in your brain and heart. I know, because I went through it all too. Just keep your mind as open as you can. Use your common sense. Don’t drink the Dairy Industry Kool-Aid. Try a few days without cow’s milk. Experiment. Allow your thoughts and opinions to change and evolve. Thank you for reading this entire post. Please share it if it means something to you…
This post is participating in Healthy Vegan Fridays HERE.














I gave up actual cow milk years ago. Many years ago. I think it tastes disgusting actually. I have been using rice milk primarily, with almond or coconut periodically. I still eat cheese and other dairy products, so I am not completely off of cow products, though. One step is better than no steps. I applaud you and your boys for taking the no cow milk step. (Rice milk is not good for cooking though, it doesn’t have enough fat in it-at least that is what I have found.)
I agree. I don’t think everyone needs to be 100% vegan. It’s enough just to consume less.
I love cashew milk….Those pictures are really horrifying! I visited a kibbutz in the North a few months ago and was not happy to see how many cows they had put in one cow barn..
KOL HAKAVOD!!!!
Great post emily. thanks for sharing the dairy site. I showed it to my kids
Personally, another great resource I’ve found about the dairy industry is a book called Whitewash. Made me never want myself or my family to consume dairy again!
Great post. I always hated cow’s milk as a kid and was thrilled when my folks finally gave up trying to force me to drink it each morning with breakfast. Fast-forward to my becoming a parent and choosing to breastfeed and it was the moment that made me truly believe that cow’s milk is NOT for human consumption. As a nursing mother it really seemed wrong to consume milk from animals that is designed for their own offspring.
Once my son was weaned his doctor insisted that we start giving him cow’s milk. After six months of constant loose stools (3-5 times a day) a different doctor realized that drinking cow’s milk is what was causing my child’s tummy troubles. We now use almond, rice or coconut milk as a substitute and are happier because of it.
Thanks for sharing your story.
Oh wow, this is a terrific blog post. I feel even more determined to get my family to give up cow milk and onto “No Moo Milk”! For heaven’s sake, my 9 year old son refused to breast-feed from me – it’s about time he finished up with taking it from a gosh darned cow.
Thank you for linking this up to HVF Emily. I share the same sentiments about the dairy industry and how diary adversely effects our bodies. If you get a chance, check out my post about it: http://everydayvegangirl.blogspot.com/2012/06/calcium-and-diy-non-dairy-milks.html
Have you tried sunflower seed milk? You can even make your own, but that one would be a good one for your kids to try. My son likes that one the best, along with almond milk.
Thanks Shelby. Sunflower Seed milk sounds delicious! I’m going to make some.
Thank you for an interesting post. We have been vegan for 3 years now and have never looked back. I love the way that I do not have to worry about early puberty or any other hormonal disruptions to my 4 children’s health. My husband lost weight, and my and the kids eczema cleared up.
Fantastic post! I really enjoyed reading your story and how your family has responded to this change. There’s so much evidence now that dairy is harmful for human health, not to mention the ethical reasons for not drinking it. I will be featuring this post tomorrow on my blog.
Thank you Carrie!
I found a web site http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nq_0K0q-JP4
I even went to a local famrer and he told me about the tubes they use to feed calves for veal- didn’t know that either.
My heart sank! I had been vegetarian for many many yeras , but thought it was quite natural for cows to produce milk and it really wasn’t hurting them . Same with the chickens that lay the eggs ., right? I mean , they’re gonna lay those eggs anyway so might as well eat them!
I LOVE CHEESE and pizza and brie and well….
All that to say is once I found out what really happens I am no longer eating milk or cheese or eggs . Doens’t take much to find facts and online videos about the cruelty these animals endure. So I am vegan now for about 3 months.
So many options out there now and so much informtaion available.
Keep it up!