“Why will this time be different? How can I know that this time I will succeed when I never have before?”
I get that question a lot.
And I understand it on a very personal level. I too, had a million and a half failed attempts at losing weight and keeping it off before I finally succeeded.
But before I began that last attempt that ended with success (70 lbs gone, 14 years maintenace), I consciously decided that I would do everything completely different from all prior attempts. I decided that first of all, I was D-O-N-E-done, stick-a-fork -in-it done with dieting! After 30 years of diets, I didn’t have to be Einstein to understand that diets are temporary solutions that always bring the weight back.
I decided I was done with anything not entirely sustainable for life. I decided that I would rather it take LONGER if it meant it would be LASTING. And I looked at everything that had failed before (doing crazy diets, losing weight fast, not eating enough calories, not addressing the emotional reasons I was eating, being in isolation with no support, white-knuckling, being mean to myself, feeling stress about it all…) and I decided to do everything opposite.
…doing crazy diets with all sorts of food restrictions, I decided to eat the things I love.
…losing weight at a rapid pace, I took my time to learn how to EAT, not how to not eat. As well, as how to actually BE smaller. No one ever talks about that but it’s so important!
…not eating enough calories, I ate the most I possibly could eat while still losing weight (this took trial and error to find but was so worth it!)
…not addressing the emotional reasons I was eating, I devoted time every day to mastering my emotional state
…being in isolation with no support, I hired a supportive health coach, joined an online group, and a fitness group
…white-knuckling, I stopped doing anything that felt like force
…being mean to myself, I worked at accepting and loving myself exactly as I was
…feeling stress about it all, I decided it would be an easy and joyful journey, and it if it wasn’t, that I needed to simplify things and make it more fun
So just to re-cap that for you because it’s super important: If you were to ask me “Emily, how did you lose 70lbs and keep it off for 14 years?” I would answer:
-I ate/eat foods I loved/love
-I ate/eat as much food as I could/can
-I learned strategies to control my emotions, which stopped the emotionally-led binging
-I let it be easy
-I was nice to myself
-I made it FUN.
In other words, if you are thinking that weight loss has to be hard, boring, painful, and you’ll be hungry all the time and not be able to enjoy the things you love, you ARE setting yourself up to fail.
Change it all around and finally succeed. If you’d like to learn how to do this for yourself, book a breakthrough session. Let’s talk.